Sound Healing: An introduction

Over the past year, I’ve received certification in Reiki (Energy) Healing, which has led to a strong interest in the power of Sound Healing and Sound Baths as a therapeutic treatment. I’ve found Energy/Sound Healing to be very powerful in my own life, and am looking forward to sharing this healing with my psychotherapy patients.

I am currently learning to play Crystal Singing Bowls for sound healing/sound baths, and in a recent practice created one that I feel moved to share (to listen, press play at the top of this post).

Sound baths, I’ve found, are a wonderful way to find rest, pause, healing, and release, in some deep, non-verbal ways that can be difficult to access in more active forms of healing, when our busy minds can get in our way. Tones, vibrations and frequencies are able to do some powerful healing work for us, going where our bodies need them to go, even if we don’t quite know on an intellectual level what we “need.” In sound healing, all we have to do is be open to the healing, open to the release, for the experience to be helpful to us.

I invite you, if you have 20 minutes to spare (and if you don’t think you possibly do, then you probably definitely should :) ), to find someplace to lie down or sit comfortably, take a few deep breaths, press play (at the top of this post), close your eyes, and just listen. There are chimes at the end of this sound bath to let you know it’s ended. (Note: There are loud bell tones throughout, so I recommend listening at approx. 50% volume if you’re using headphones, and around 75% volume if you’re using a speaker.)

~Please feel free to let me know in the comments how this sound bath impacts you, or what emotions it brings up for you. You can also find other sound baths I’ve created on Spotify, Apple Music, and Insight Timer.~

I am also offering individualized sound baths via Zoom, you can find more information about that here.

Five Questions to Ask When Anxiety Starts to Win--Part 2: Am I Fortune-telling?

As I wrote about here, the five questions I recommend asking yourself when your anxiety starts to take over are:

1. Am I predicting, fortunetelling, or mind-reading right now?

2. What do I know to be true?

3. What do I need right now?

4. What can I do right now?

5. What does my body need right now?

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Let’s dive in to that first question:

Am I predicting, fortune-telling, or mind-reading right now?

What might this predicting or mind-reading look like? Often, when we’re anxious, if we take a moment to pay attention to what our mind is telling us, we might find that we’re thinking things like:

“My boss definitely thinks I’m an idiot.”

“I’m never going to feel better!”

“She’s not texting me back because she thinks I’m boring.”

“None of my friend’s actually want to see me.”

“I’m going to make a fool of myself in my interview tomorrow.”

“He doesn’t ever want to go out with me again.”

These negative thoughts often feel so real. And 100% true. But—are they? If you add a phrase like “I’m imagining that...” to every one of those statements above, they sound a bit different:

“I’m imagining that my boss thinks I’m an idiot.”

“I’m imagining that none of my friend’s want to see me.”

and so on.

Taking a step back from our thoughts in this way, reminding ourselves that we are making something up, can help us to recognize that these negative, scary, critical thoughts—as painful as they often are in the moment—are in fact only words, guesses, and stories that we are telling ourselves. And yes, it’s possible that maybe, sometimes, some of these stories come true, or our prediction ends up being accurate. But in the moment when you are gripped by fear and anxiety and are actually having the thought, you don’t actually know that it’s true, and that is the key. It might be true, but it might not be.

Anxiety, plus the fact that we, as humans, are intelligent beings with the capacity for language and fantasy (a blessing and a curse), leads us very easily down the misguided path of assuming, without a hint of doubt, that our thoughts equal reality. However, this is very often not the case! We can say “My friends don’t really like me, they’re just pitying me when they hang out with me.” But having that thought does not make those words true.

Try this for an easy example of what I mean:

Say “I will never be able to lift my arm again” while you lift your arm above your head.

This is an example of how our minds can tell us any and everything, regardless of its accuracy or link to our real, lived experience. This ability is what allows us to be creative, artistic, and innovative, and it’s also how we often end up feeling scared, anxious, and stuck.

Asking yourself if you are, in essence, making things up as your brain starts telling you that everything is terrible, or is going to be, is the first step toward taking the power away from your anxiety. Just because you had a thought, predicted an outcome, or attempted to be a mind reader, does not make any of those things real, at least not yet! So, next time you find yourself entering that cycle of worry, fear, or dread about something in your life, ask yourself what story you are telling.

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Next up: After we begin to recognize what our mind is telling us that’s not necessarily real, we then need to work on paying attention to what is “real”, in that (this) exact moment. More on that next time, in Part 3.

The Gift of a Good Day

Have you ever had one of those days when nothing felt…wrong? When you woke up on time, said the right thing to your boss, remembered to meditate in the morning, were thoughtful interacting with your loved ones, remembered to drink enough water, and were feeling present in your life, and maybe even happy?

Did it scare you?

Often, when we have a day where things are moving along as they should, when we’re remembering and using our coping skills, when we’re being present and engaged and there aren’t any big obstacles or hiccups (or, at least it feels like there aren’t—more on that later), the moment we realize how well things are going, that old familiar anxiety starts to sidle up beside us.

“What do you think you’re doing, feeling so content and capable? It won’t last, you know!”

The moment that thought creeps in, we start looking for ways to get out of the discomfort of feeling ok. But what if there was a different story to tell ourselves about these “good” days? What if your good days are practice for the bad ones?

Try to think back to the last day you can remember where things went pretty well, where you felt on top of things and the day didn’t feel like a disaster. Now, I challenge you to remember if literally NOTHING frustrating or difficult or challenging happened that day. I’ll be surprised if you can’t think of a single thing that happened on that good day that, on a different day, when maybe you’re coping skills and mindset weren’t as readily accessible, could have felt like an absolute life-ruiner. But still, your day was good! What was the difference? Perhaps moments and situations that could feel like obstacles felt less problematic, less like problems, because you were using your coping skills, practicing self care, feeling compassionate toward yourself and others, checking in with your needs, or focusing on what was within your power to do or say (or not do or say).

In many ways, the difference between good and bad days is us. Of course there are times in life when difficulties arise, obstacles appear that throw us off course, scare us, or frustrate us, but the more we allow ourselves to acknowledge and embrace the days when we’re ok and view “good” days as practice for the hard days, the more prepared we are when those tough moments come.

Each day is a new chance to practice the things we know work to help us to feel ok. What a gift! So next time you notice that your doing alright, and maybe even feeling great, remind yourself that you’re getting wonderful practice for handling what life may toss your way in the future. Something will come, it always does, but each “good” day leaves you more prepared to face the next bump in the road.

What things do you do that lead to a “good” day? Share in the comments!

(Note: the information provided here or in the comments below is for informative purposes only and does not constitute psychological treatment or care. If you are experiencing a crisis or are in danger, call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room.)